Self-Limiting Voice Narratives 👇

I cannot tell you how often I hear the following phrases:

  • “Oh, you don’t want to hear me sing!”
  • “I can’t carry a tune”
  • “I love to sing but I’m terrible
  • “My voice is awful!”
  • “Singing is fun, but I’m not very good…”

Any of those ever escaped your lips, {{firstname}}?

No judging yourself, beloved. You are certainly not alone!

But I want to tell you something important…


95% of the people who say those things to me?

They CAN sing! 

They CAN carry a tune. 

And they DO have a pleasing voice.

(AHEM… if you’re reading this and want to argue with me when I insist you have a great voice, let me remind you I am a singer, songwriter, choir director and musician, so I do know what I’m talking about here!)


So why do so many people believe (to the extent they’ll argue over it) they have a bad voice?

Here’s my theory:

America is a culture that primarily views singing and dancing as ‘performance arts.’

In the U.S. culture, we weren’t raised to use song and dance as a common way to express or connect with ourselves or one another.

These ‘performance arts’ are only taught to us when we are very young, and even then they are mostly reserved for classrooms or lessons…

You only received more musical training, practice and instruction if you showed ‘natural talent’ or begged your parents or teachers to support you in learning more.

Now compare this to indigenous tribes and cultures around the world. 

In these cultures, song and dance are a part of communal and daily life!

They are as natural as breathing and talking and walking.

Imagine you grew up with everyone around you singing and dancing constantly…

Not as a ‘performance’ or because they were good at it…

… simply because these were the best ways to connect with those around you, to express joy or sorrow,

to get through the work day, do the dishes or cook a meal and stay engaged and present.

Imagine song and singing was an integrated and natural part of daily life!

If that had been your upbringing, you would probably feel pretty different about your singing voice, right?

Right here and now, I invite you to recognize the limitations of the culture you grew up in.

And, hear this:

It’s not too late for you
to befriend your voice, improve your singing skills, build your confidence and learn to use your voice as a daily tool for living a rich, joyful life.

Isn’t it time to be kinder to yourself?

Isn’t it time to give yourself, and your voice, a second chance?


And hey, if you’re still insistent on arguing that you have a terrible voice…

I want to point out one more thing.

A lot of our most famous and treasured singers actually have what most people would call a “terrible voice”!

Otis Redding? Janice Joplan?

C’mon! These are not angelic, classically trained voices.

These are real people, with real voices, who were brave enough to share their expressions of truth….

And we all benefited!

Let that be a reminder…
not to compare yourself to others
not to discount yourself because you don’t sound like (the name of your favorite singer here)
—  to give your voice a real chance to be met, heard, and expressed.

My entire life transformed when I started to sing regularly.

I even met my beloved Ben (now my husband) through singing!!!

What could it do for you?

In support of our inner children who love to sing,