"No regrets"

I have a theory about regret.

Too often, I hear people say things like "no regrets!" (Which I hear in a casual, flippant voice, spoken by a young naive millennial tossing her hair.)

But I've also heard it said that if you go to your deathbed with no regrets, then you haven't really lived.

THAT. I'm in that camp ☝️ 

Here's where I've landed:

Regret is not useful if it becomes a hand around your neck, choking you every time you remember your transgression and keeping you in a state of purgatory.

But regret is useful when it so effectively showcases for us where we acted out of alignment with our integrity, intuition and right timing.

This is a good measuring stick. Use it to assess how you're actually using regret by taking a moment right now. Think back on any true regrets you have. They could be tiny (I wish I hadn't bought those pants) or seemingly futile (I wish I had invested earlier) or massive (I wish I hadn't betrayed her trust). 

Now pull out the measuring stick:

Are you still beating yourself up for the choice you made? 
Did you learn from the misaligned action? How so?
What have you done to reconcile, forgive, or make different choices now?

If your regret acts as a clear mirror, calling you into higher integrity, purpose and aligned action, then bless it.

if your regret acts as a stronghold around your self-worth, bless it; then vow to do what you must to forgive yourself and integrate the lesson.

Regret is a time-related issue. 

This is the kind of thing we'll explore in my upcoming free class.

Your presence is kindly requested!

Time is Your Ally

Wednesday, July 1st | 9am PT